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Social Anxiety is More Than Just Being Shy

Courtnie Vargas-Rodriguez, Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, QS
March 22, 2024

Explore the ins and outs of social anxiety, from symptoms like excessive self-consciousness to effective treatments like CBT and exposure therapy. Discover practical tips for managing this condition and reclaiming your social life!

Debilitating fear, excessive self-consciousness, feeling judged, embarrassed, or humiliated; these are all possible symptoms of social anxiety. It can be debilitating, causing intense fear and anxiety in social situations. In this blog post, we will explore the symptoms and treatment, as well as provide tips for managing this challenging condition.

As a Marriage and Family Therapist in South Florida, I often come across people who talk about feeling self-conscious in the presence of others, having difficulty and often avoid meeting new people, and feel judged when they walk into a room. Now some people may respond and say, “oh you’re just imaging things” or “oh, you just say that because you’re shy”. Although, it may be true that some of these people are in fact shy, introverted, and possibly imaging being judged by others but that is how social anxiety works.

Social anxiety can be all encompassing, irrational, and have a significant impact on a person’s quality of life. Some people often feel as if the fear of being in social situations is so intense that it often feels to be out of their control. Although, the causes are not fully understood, it can at times be contributed to genetic predisposition, chemical imbalances in the brain, traumatic or negative experiences in social situations, or even learned behavior. Bullying in school, for example, can play a huge part in someone developing social anxiety.

Effective treatment often includes Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) since it helps individuals identify and challenge negative thought patterns and behaviors related to social situations. Exposure therapy can also be helpful in gradually exposing individuals to social situations that cause anxiety, helping them build confidence and reduce fear. Sometimes a combination of therapy and medication can help manage symptoms as well.

In addition to professional treatment, there are several strategies that can help individuals manage social anxiety on their own:

  1. Engage in regular exercise
  2. Practice relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing, meditation, or guided imagery
  3. Avoid caffeine, especially if it makes you jittery
  4. Bring your friends, family, or anyone in your support group to help provide encouragement
  5. Visualize and practice exposing yourself to social situations, starting with small steps

Social anxiety can be a very challenging condition that can significantly impact a person's quality of life. However, with the right treatment and support, individuals with social anxiety can learn to manage their symptoms and lead fulfilling lives. If you or someone you know is struggling with social anxiety, don't hesitate to seek help from a mental health professional.

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